Birthday Requests

1. Don't try to make plans with me. I'm not into birthdays, and I don't want to plan or be planned-into anything.

2. Don't hold your breath on Swissy. He is totally stressing about the fact that I told him I wanted him to have brunch with my closest friends in NYC on Sunday. There has been a protracted discussion about people, their limitations, and what we look for in others, even non-romantically. I said basically that I don't view people as entertainment and if I'm not around someone who challenges me and lets me challenge them then I'm not really interested, and that goes for boyfriends, friends, and family alike. Introspection terrifies him, and he likes Disneyland (I'm not sure much more needs to be said than that). Not much I can do about it, but I don't want to ignore a big red flag like that (like him always telling me that he doesn't want to talk about serious things) just to have a fun and breezy birthday. We may or may not see each other this weekend (we're supposed to think on it and whether we want to meet on Friday when he arrives).

Kind of funny the way plans change, since a French guy I know (of dubious character I guess I should add) offered to have a birthday dinner for me wherever I wanted and have me invite whoever I want, but I didn't turn it into anything because that would be weird and because I thought I'd be doing things with Swissy this weekend.

I'm off to a 50th birthday dinner and benefit for the founder of the organization Freedom to Marry. The ex who I went to Montreal with in August invited me, and I know the birthday guy as well, so it should be good.

VC